Laundry detergent and fabric softener are products that touch our skin every day so I find it extremely important they are free of chemicals. I'm currently using Seventh Generation. Links to product sites and ewg scores below.
Be prepared that the dryer sheets are not soft and pretty. The other day while helping me with laundry Ruby picked up a dryer sheet and said "trash". It resembles a crumpled brown paper lunch bag BUT it does what its' supposed to do and I feel safe using it!